trying to get over a broken heart is such a heck of shit to do… no one can help you except you, yourself. to forget such pain is a tough thing to do and it is never easy… just as what one of my favorite flicks had said, only a new love can heal a broken heart… now what if no new love had come to rescue you? how would you pick the broken pieces of your heart? will you ever dare yourself to pick them up alone? accepting the fact that you two are no longer with each other is accepting also the fact that you are now alone… and that would be the hardest part of all, finding yourself playing solitaire… broken heart is not always about break-ups. rejection can be one, and so as false hopes, lies that have surrounded you, jealousy, wrong love, right love at the wrong time, falling for the one who’s already taken… those things made by love can really leave you heartwrecked. now what’s left for you to do except for drenching your heart into bottles of vodka and palm wine? you might think there’s nothing left, but there’s one… MOVE ON!
moving on– such a difficult journey to begin with. taking the first step can be very devastating. but once you have taken it, the next steps are a lot easier and eventually, you’ll find out that you had just gone far. and to help you initiate the journey of curing your ill heart, here are some prescriptions to help you
to do so. this can’t cure your heart 100%, but definitely, this can help…a lot.
EXPRESS–well, all you need is to express what you feel and let go of the frustrations behind. talk about what you feel with your friends. they may be fed up of your stories but hey, this can really help. your friends might never understand exactly what you feel, but being with them does not make you feel alone. cry a riverbut make sure you’ll never forget to build a damn bridge and get over it… there’s nothing wrong with crying, it is never a sign of weakness. blurt out all your pain through tears… you should not cry for regrets that you lost your loveit is not a sign of getting over. it will just make you look back and make things harder. , you just have to cry babe, cry because that person had just become unfair. cry because you did not get what you really deserve. cry cos you made a mistake, you fell for the wrong person. cry for those things and not for what you have lost. write poems,songs, stories. this one can really help you express what you feel. of course, the world is at your pen, and the pen is at your hands, and that’s the good thing when it comes to writing, creating our own world with just a strike of a pen. you can build your own world, kill everyone you like, love like there’s no tomorrow, control the situation, seal a happy ending or leave that world drowned in tears. when you write, there are no limitations, you just have to write.
FORGET–put away all the things that can make you look back.. maybe you hold too tight on it because the past is the only thing left not to change. memories are nice, but that’s all they are. unchain your heart from the past. it is not healthy for your heart. do not ever return anything that he/she has given to you. those were given to you, they are yours. instead, throw them away or let the fire eat them. attach your feelings of hatred and pain to these things as they turn to ashes and eventually disappear. make believe you have forgotten him/her. this will give you a drive next to reality that you are already over that person. i know you’ll make a fool of yourself but once you stick on it and you believe it, you are going to get through it. pretension is sometimes good. this may seem like a denial stage in a reverse way but this isn’t so. it’s just helping yourself to accept that everything that you had once known is now gone. avoid him/her. avoid the person you know that can hurt you. staying away from that particular person is like freeing yourself from pain. try not to speak his name. isolate yourself from his memories. keep in mind that “hindi sya ang mundo”. let him go, and let go of yourself too…
MINGLE–have bonding moments with your friends. meet new friends. by this, you can make a new you and have a positive outlook in life. life is not always about him/her. there are lots of cool lads/lasses out there. be friend with them, and who knows, you might find someone out there who can heal your broken heart and make you forget the things that had once destroyed you. but please, do not take anyone for granted. you’ll end up as a user. do not treat anyone who’s into you as “panakip butas”, that is sooo mean. if that person was ought to heal your heart, then both of you has to take chances and take time. take it easy, don’t be in a rush, or else, you’ll just have your heart broken again.
These things are never easy. but all you have to do is just to help yourself. do not force yourself if you can’t make it. you just have to be patient, and in time, everything will be healed. don’t put pressures on yourself. and, don’t forget to pray to God, He’ll be your guide along the way, for He is the real meaning of love, love that knows no pain.
*unfinished. still under its construction.
